Someone summarized the work life very well:
1. 10%的精力放在工作本身, 2. 50%精力放在提高自己的专业能力找下家, 3. 40%搞搞人际关系,不要闷头工作.
工作的目的:
1. 赚钱养家, 2. 积累经验, 3. 认识人好推荐.
千万别把同事当成朋友或自己人无话不说,一定会后悔莫及.
Monday, November 07, 2011
Friday, November 04, 2011
Books I wish I've read earlier
I've read a few business books recently that I felt I should have read earlier. Thinking back-- I've made so many mistakes dealing with people in my early career, but nobody at work ever told me that even in a criticizing way. I guess I was being naive and expected too much of a business/corporate world in U.S., especially in a bad economy. Nobody at work is your friend; your colleagues are there not to help you, but to work with you--for their own purposes. Life is cruel at work; there are many valuable lessons you have to learn by yourself. Nobody will warn you or teach you anything, not even the "nice" boss you thought at first.
People usually say your nice boss isn't your father; they only have time to deal with your work outcome, not to spend time mentoring you as your father. That being said, even my farther or mother didn't teach/mentor me anything since I went to college. Yes, I owe them for helping and sending me to college. I owe them nothing after that. Not on how to get most out of college life, not on how to succeed after failures, not on how to deal with unfair life......., definitely not on how to succeed at work. Our relationship kind of ended when I went to college and got worse after that.
I am not regret about what happened before. It is what it is. What happened makes the current and unique me: independent, quick learner, strong. However, I do want to have the opportunity to tell my daughter about my stories hoping they will be useful to her. I'll start compiling a book list for her someday to cover many aspects of life.
I. Business books
1. Robert W. Goldfarb, What's stopping me from getting ahead
2. Think like men, win like women
The lessons I learned at work from my own experience and from reading these highly useful books:
1. People skills and emotional IQ are the most important. Work is not only work, work is about dealing with people.
When starting in a new company, either at the entry or senior level, show respect to everybody and observe carefully first before speaking up, especially criticisms of the current system or the way people doing things. Observe how things are done in terms of people, procedure, dressing style and people's work habit, communication style, and personality. Eat lunch with colleagues and attend group events if possible. If handled well, all these lunch time talks and events will get things done at work for you.
2. Respect people and deal with them in their preferred way. Show that you care about them as individuals by asking about their personal life and share stories. Think in others' shoes and how to achieve win-win when conflicts emerge. Few people are evils; they just have different opinions.
3. Be a modest leader; praise your people and others. Involve people in decision making. They will be more willing to be hold accountable.
4. Behavior and attitude are more important than results.
To be continued.....Writing a book is not easy.
People usually say your nice boss isn't your father; they only have time to deal with your work outcome, not to spend time mentoring you as your father. That being said, even my farther or mother didn't teach/mentor me anything since I went to college. Yes, I owe them for helping and sending me to college. I owe them nothing after that. Not on how to get most out of college life, not on how to succeed after failures, not on how to deal with unfair life......., definitely not on how to succeed at work. Our relationship kind of ended when I went to college and got worse after that.
I am not regret about what happened before. It is what it is. What happened makes the current and unique me: independent, quick learner, strong. However, I do want to have the opportunity to tell my daughter about my stories hoping they will be useful to her. I'll start compiling a book list for her someday to cover many aspects of life.
I. Business books
1. Robert W. Goldfarb, What's stopping me from getting ahead
2. Think like men, win like women
The lessons I learned at work from my own experience and from reading these highly useful books:
1. People skills and emotional IQ are the most important. Work is not only work, work is about dealing with people.
When starting in a new company, either at the entry or senior level, show respect to everybody and observe carefully first before speaking up, especially criticisms of the current system or the way people doing things. Observe how things are done in terms of people, procedure, dressing style and people's work habit, communication style, and personality. Eat lunch with colleagues and attend group events if possible. If handled well, all these lunch time talks and events will get things done at work for you.
2. Respect people and deal with them in their preferred way. Show that you care about them as individuals by asking about their personal life and share stories. Think in others' shoes and how to achieve win-win when conflicts emerge. Few people are evils; they just have different opinions.
3. Be a modest leader; praise your people and others. Involve people in decision making. They will be more willing to be hold accountable.
4. Behavior and attitude are more important than results.
To be continued.....Writing a book is not easy.
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